This is picture of my son and daughter and the dress they both love and fight over.
I haven’t raised my kids with much respect toward gender lines. They wear what they choose and act according to their nature, rather than something predescribed to them.
And often it’s a terrible uphill battle. My own in-laws don’t accept my son in a dress, even though they accept my daughter in ‘boy’ clothes. My brother-in-law told my son that only girls wear dresses and then complained to me loudly about letting him wear “whatever he wants”.
Recently, at a princess themed birthday party, where my son was one of three boys among twelve 6-9 year old girls, my son was mocked by parents and kids alike for wanting to do ‘the girly things’ like building a crown and wand with jewels, picking a ‘girl’ colored crown, coloring pictures of princesses, and sitting in a chair ‘for girls’.
I found myself glad that we didn’t know ahead of time that it was a dress-up party or he would have wanted to wear his gown and I can’t imagine what he would have suffered. And then I felt bad for feeling relieved because I’m the one telling him he can wear whatever he likes.
It’s so endlessly frustrating, until I look at these pictures. Because if they’re happy, then I’m happy too. So I had to post them :)
(oh, I posted the spinning picture because that’s the reason they both like the dress so much.)